Waiting

I mentioned in an earlier post that our world tends to present marriage as the only happy ending.  What this has created is the apparent feeling that we “aren’t finished” until we are married, thereby putting single people into a continuous holding pattern.

I have a dear friend, who was single into her late 20s,  who brought this to my attention.  One day I was visiting her and we started watching TV together. I couldn’t help but notice that her TV had this green hue across the entire screen, with an intermittent wide stripe of green that would appear at random intervals to add to the ambience.  The next week I noticed the same thing…so I asked her whether she had thought of getting a new one.  She said something rather curious.

“Well, Mary, I’m going to wait to buy a new TV until after I get married.”

Wh-aaa-t?

“My husband will want to have a say in which brand and type to buy.”

Of course I said, “Ahhh…is there something I don’t know about?  Are you dating now?”

“No,” she says.

OK…Hmmm…

When I asked her when she was going to give up her single bed (not a twin, a SINGLE) that she’s slept on since she was…well…a toddler…she said the same thing.

“My husband will want to have a say in the choice of bedroom set.”

First of all, he’s a guy.  Will he care about the type of ‘bedroom set’?  Secondly, what if God doesn’t lead her down that path?  Is she going to continue sleeping on a single bed, watching Martian TV until she’s 90?

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept  the one that is waiting for us. Joseph  Campbell

 Why all the waiting?  Shouldn’t we grasp each moment we’ve been given?  Carpe diem may not be from the Bible but shouldn’t we seize each moment that God has graced us with?

James 4:14 says, Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. (sorry for taking it out of context :D).

We don’t know what tomorrow brings.  Let’s get busy in the work He has given us in the place we are in now.

Now, be sure to note that I am not endorsing materialism, but that singles should not sit waiting for the world’s definition of a happy ending but should make the most of every moment.

This is the day the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.  Psalm 118:24

If you are going to wait, you should wait on the Lord!

Waiting For Tomorrow (Mandisa)

Maybe tomorrow we’ll start over
Maybe tomorrow I will finally change my ways
Said the same things yesterday
Don’t know why I’m so afraid
To let you in
To let you win
To let you have all of me

Can’t spend my whole life wastin’
Everything I know I’ve been given
‘Cause you’ve made me for so much more than
Sittin’ on the side lines
I don’t wanna look back and wonder
If good enough could’ve been better

Everyday’s a day to start over
So, why am I waiting for tomorrow

Maybe today I’ll start believing
That you’re mercy is really
As real as you say it is
It doesn’t matter who I used to be
It only matters that I’ve been set free
You rescued me you’re changing me
Jesus take everything

Can’t spend my whole life wastin’
Everything I know I’ve been given
‘Cause you’ve made for so much more than
Sittin’ on the side lines
I don’t wanna look back and wonder
If good enough could’ve been better

Everyday’s a day to start over
So, why am I waiting for tomorrow

Oh, I’m makin this my moment now
To grab the hand that’s reachin down to save me You saved me

And I’m not gonna wait until tomorrow
Oh, tomorrow

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One thought on “Waiting

  1. We’re all waiting Mary. I have single friends as well that I try to encourage to serve the Lord with gladness and not spend every waking moment waiting for the ‘one’ to show up. While we’re waiting we are to make sure we have enough oil for our lamps and your lamps are trimmed because The Bridegroom cometh. As you rightfully said “If you are going to wait, you should wait on the Lord!”

    P.S I read that whole song hearing your voice in my head lol.

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