What to do when…Someone Asks You What Your Husband/Wife Thinks…

I find myself at times in amongst people who don’t know me well.  Of course, being the gregarious and often loquacious person that I am, I sometimes find myself in the position of having mentioned one of the crazy things that I’ve done in my life (for example, having traveled to India on my own).  The response by certain people is surprising, given this day and age, and yet seems to be the inevitable.

“What does your husband think of you galavanting around like that?”

(Really? What is this? The 1950’s?)

What does one say in response to this?

Bad girl response (tempting…):  I don’t care…I’d go anyway…

CIA response:  That’s on a need to know basis…and you don’t need to know!

Typical Mary answer:  Uhhhhh….right!  I mean, well…uhhhhhh….I’m not, like, married…no, I like boys, it’s just I haven’t…uhhh…found one that…well…How about those Canucks?

(Yes, I know–where is your loquaciousness now, Mary?)

Playing Ignorant:  Husband!  I have a husband?

Spy response:  I could tell you, but then I’d have to kill you…

Vegas, baby!:  What is said in my house stays in my house.

Playful:  Husband?  Well, I don’t know.  I haven’t met him yet.

I am a big girl ( I’ve lived on my own for longer than I haven’t) so I think I can decide where to go and how to get there on my own (indignantly).  But, I guess we do have to be civil…

Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Philippians 4:5 (NIV)

Good answer:  Oh, I am very careful when I travel.  My family knows where I am and when I will be traveling. God called me to India and I know that He had me in His hand while I was there.  He is with me wherever I go.  Thank you for your concern!


Things I Like About Being Single…

The last post may have been a bit…serious. So today will be a little more light hearted–I’m going to talk about a few of the things I LIKE about being single. God wants us to have ‘life to the full’ (John 10:10b) so I firmly believe that he desires us to have happiness in our lives.

OK, so what do I like?

1). Messes–if I come home and there is a mess in my house, I have made it. If it doesn’t get cleaned up, I can blame no one but myself. I usually shake my head and chuckle and say ‘what a fine mess I have made’. I don’t have clean up after someone else–just myself.

2). If a friend of mine calls me up and says ‘Mary, you must come to Ireland with me! If you don’t come, I’ll be stuck with my mom and she snores!’ I can go (and did).

3). I can spend every Saturday night with my favorite boys (my adorable nephews) who love me!

4). I can usually get tickets at the last minute for any shows since I only need one ticket (and I can usually get a seat in a good location!).

5). The non-singles around me feel sorry for me so they invite me over for holiday meals (and even sometimes send me home with leftovers. Yeeeeaaaah!)

6). People think I am younger than I am (seriously). If you are not married and don’t have kids people seem to automatically assume that you are in your twenties, despite what their eyes tell them.

7). The blankets on my bed are mine and mine alone!

8). If I want to eat popcorn for supper I can (don’t tell my doctor).

9). I don’t take up much space on my own so I can have a beautiful home in a prime location for a reasonable amount. Nice!

So when you start to get down about your situation (we all do) I would encourage you to make a list of the things that YOU like about being single. Focus on the good things and enjoy them.

Whatsoever is true, whatsoever is noble, whatsoever is right, whatsoever is pure, whatsoever is lovely, whatsoever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.  Philippines 4:8,9