So. We’ve investigated purity and talked about the importance of sexual purity for both singles and marrieds. The question now becomes–how can we become pure?
Firstly, (and keep in mind this is professional opinion and not from the Bible) you have to WANT to be pure. Very much like quitting smoking, losing weight, becoming good at a sport—one must WANT to do it. I see a lot of people come in saying, “My wife wants me to quit smoking” or “my mom says I should lose weight”. These people will not be successful in the goal until it becomes their goal. Similarly, if you think in your head, “Mary says I should be pure” but haven’t bought into it yourself, it won’t happen.
Secondly, as I mentioned in Purity 2, remember, sexual impurity begins in the mind. You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ (Exodus 20:14) But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27,28 NIV It is hard to avoid sexual impurity these days. Everywhere we look, everything we read or listen to, seems to advertise sex in some way. My friend lives in Korea and says that everywhere you go where she lives you are confronted with pornography attacking you from every visual angle. It will be hard to keep your mind pure but it is very important. …[E]ach person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed.Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. James 1:14,15 NIV
Thirdly, What does God say about being pure?
1). We need to immerse ourselves in His Word instead of that of the world.
How can a young person stay on the path of purity?
By living according to your word.
I have hidden your word in my heart
that I might not sin against you. Psalm 119:9,11
2). We need to offer ourselves completely to God, mind and body.
Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:1, 2 NIV
3). We need to ask God for His help.
Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me. Psalm 51:10 – 12 NKJV
4). We need to follow God where he leads us.
He has shown you, O man, what is good;
And what does the Lord require of you
But to do justly,
To love mercy,
And to walk humbly with your God? Micah 6:8
This part is the simplest part to write but, I fear, the hardest to actually do. But if we truly want to be pure before God we need to put our hearts and minds to it. Find yourself a group of friends and enlist them to help keep you accountable in this goal. Do not dispair if you fall down or fail. God is the God of second chances, and third chances, and fourth chances (read Matthew 18:22). If you have been sexually impure in the past, or impure in any way, talk to God. Confess. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 NIV Then, move on. We are not perfect, but Christ is and He will walk with us through our struggles. If God calls us to purity, He will help us to get there. Remember, He will never give up on you. Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6 NIV
So, since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God. 2 Corinthians 7:1 NIV